Laugh More, Be Healthier
I've known this for a while intuitively (I think most of us do) and I had it confirmed by passages in the book The Science of Happiness. But here it is in a video...
...which hopefully makes up for the fact that I've been a slacker about writing it up.
Bonus: John Cleese of Monty Python fame reports on the same thing...
The Swine (H1N1) Flu and I
I have been sick this week. It started Sunday. I finally went to the doctor today, Friday, because it wasn’t getting better and I decided it must be a sinus infection, and I wanted antibiotics.
As a precaution they did a test for the H1N1 virus, which involved sticking a long cotton swab up my nose and then dipping it into a test tube. I may have it backwards, but I think she said, “Red is bad, blue is good.” I cracked a joke about political orientation and thought nothing of it.
I can’t have the dreaded Swine Flu, I thought. The media reports that it’s deadly and that you’ll be horribly ill and in the hospital. What I had, I thought, was a bad cold which turned into a sinus infection.
Well guess what. I do have the Swine Flu. I tested positive for H1N1.
And, also, I have a sinus infection.
Because of all the fear mongering going on about this dreaded flu, I have been taking extra vitamins and washing my hands so often you’d think it had become a compulsion. Maybe because of that, and also maybe because I’d gotten the regular (not H1N1) flu shot, my case is ultra mild.
My lungs are clear. I never ran a temperature. Two of the things closely associated with the H1N1 infection didn’t affect me.
What tipped off my doctor’s office that I might have it was the fact that I was having hot and cold flashes, that I was feeling bodily aches and pains (though not severe), and I did have the occasional dry cough. All my other symptoms were those of the sinus infection.
Because the onset was last Sunday it was too late to give me Tamiflu, and she said the worst of it was already past. True, because today I feel 80% better than I felt yesterday. I’m now on antibiotics for the infection, and am cleared to go back to work next Monday.
So as a layman, and not a doctor, here are my generalized recommendations, being that I’ve gone through this:
- If you feel sick at all, stay home from work so you don’t spread what may be H1N1.
- If you’re an employer, don’t require or expect your employees to work when they’re sick. Allow them to work from home whenever possible.
- Take lots of vitamins as directed by your health advisor. Well nourished is well prepared for any sickness.
- H1N1 doesn’t seem to be that bad a flu, it’s just far easier to catch, and so it spreads to more people. Any flu can be dangerous if you already have health problems – this one doesn’t appear any more dangerous, except that it’s easier to catch. So don’t work yourself into a panic about it – the stress of worrying could end up being more dangerous to you than the flu that you’re worrying about.
Personally, I am wondering how many people have had it, or will have it, and never notice. I wouldn’t have. Its a fluke that I got tested.
The Power of Less
In this modern society faced with limitless choices, do you sometimes feel paralyzed?
Join the club. At no other time in history has a book like this been necessary, let alone popular.
In a culture that celebrates freedom via offering limitless choices, here's a book coming along saying that what we really need in order to be free is to set limits on ourselves.
Perfect example: On a recent episode of WNYC's Radio Lab, the show hosts are faced with a dazzling array of fruit and their task is to pick just one. While co-host Robert uses his gut instinct and just grabs something, co-host Jad deliberates agonizingly over which one to choose. He's almost paralyzed by the array of choices spread out before him, and he finds that he fears -- horror of horrors -- making the wrong decision.
That's our modern life in a nutshell.
Leo Babauta's book, The Power of Less, is a brilliant guide toward circumventing this modern problem. The solution? Some soul searching and introspection to determine what it is that you really want to do in your life, and list these as your essentials. Then examine what you are actually doing with your life, and start limiting yourself to tasks and goals that are aligned with your essentials -- and systematically eliminating everything else.
Let me tell you, over the last few months I've toted this book with me literally half way around the globe, reading it on airplanes, hotel rooms, restaurants -- and taking extensive notes. The book is brilliant in its simplicity, and also in its scope. For something so focused it delves into every aspect of your life, guiding you through discovering what is essential to you and helping you limit yourself to that which gets you to your essentials. Not only in your personal life, but in your professional one as well.
It challenged me in some areas, it gave me many "Ah-hah!" moments, and it also echoed a lot of things I'd already decided were truths in my life. But nowhere in the book did it strike a sour note -- the philosophy is pure, easy, and true.
I recommend this book, and also, I recommend listening to the Radio Lab's podcast on choices as a companion. They reinforce each other as well as expand each other's horizons. And here's an open suggestion both to Leo and to the guys at Radio Lab -- you need to get together and do a show on The Power of Less. The synergy would be fantastic.
Leo's blog: Zen Habits Book website: The Power of Less
Buy the book here: Amazon - Barnes & Noble - Borders
Listen to the Radio Lab podcast on Choices: "Choice" by Radio Lab
Battling the Migraine
How it starts out with me, I get blind spots. Like early today I was writing a beer review and was having problems seeing what I had just typed. It gave me a sudden sinking feeling, and I wondered, Is this a migraine coming on?
I struggled with typing for a few more minutes, and then realized, yes, I'm having lots of problems seeing the words on the screen.
This is THE WARNING. When I get THE WARNING it means I have about 50 to 75 minutes before THE PAIN.
The moment I get this warning I drop everything and go take medicine. Fortunately I've found the generic OTC migraine pills work just fine, and the Wal-Mart generic Equate Headache Relief (which is the equivalent of Excedrin® Migraine) is dirt cheap. They consist of Acetaminophen, Aspirin, and Caffeine. If I don't have those pills, I found taking a Tylenol combined with Advil and some coffee will work the same.
They take about 50 minutes to take effect. So if I get those pills in me immediately, they will head off the migraine pain, and all I have to deal with are the other symptoms (sleepiness, reduced mental abilities, and nausea).
So, do you get migraines? How do you deal with them?
Kiss Therapy
It starts with just a timid touching of the lips.
You both smile, and she takes a breath and leans into you again. It's a soft, lingering kiss. You pull away slightly, and she leans forward more. Her lips part, so you part yours as well. Your hands slide up her arms, squeeze lightly below the shoulders. Taking her upper lip in between yours, you pull it gently before letting it slide out. She lets out a little sigh, and then does the same to you.
This is good for you. Literally.
You kiss lightly but constantly for the next few minutes, your heart racing, your breath growing short. Then she touches your lips with her tongue, and you smile slightly and meet it with the tip of your own. It's like an introduction, the two meeting for the first time. They dance around a bit. Play hide-and-go-seek. Then you run the tip of your tongue lightly around the inside of her lips, then take her bottom lip in between yours and gently pull for a moment before letting go. Your hands caress her neck, her ears. Your fingers slide through her hair.
She sighs again, her passion growing.
What you two are doing burns over 6 calories a minute. It boosts the immune system, slows the aging process, drastically reduces stress, and even helps prevent tooth decay. It also pulls you out of your ordinary day and puts you in an amazing place outside of time and space. The world fades away, leaving just the two of you, and the wonder of what you share.
Now her arms are tight around you, and your bodies are pressed up against each other. Your kisses have built a rhythm, and you're kissing with more than just your lips. You're caressing each other, moving against each other, breathing each other's breath. She gives out the occasional cry of pleasure, almost like a happy whimper, letting you know she is enjoying it as much as you are.
Your body is releasing oxytocin, dopamine, and serotonin into your blood, your very own elixir of love. Endorphins flood your system, producing euphoria. All these things are good for you. They work wonders on your physical and mental health.
So kiss often. Kiss as many times a day as you can, every day. It's a highly recommended therapy with far-flung benefits.
Not to mention that it's a lot of fun.
Lose Weight Forever Through Eating Awareness
This is not really a diet; it's a simplified version of eating awareness training as originally developed by Molly Groger. While her excellent book is currently out of print, you can usually find copies on Amazon and eBay. As with any major lifestyle change, you may want to consult with your doctor beforehand.
Body vs. Mind
The human body didn't evolve to be a couch potato. We were meant to hunt gazelle and climb trees for fruit and to throw spears at saber-toothed tigers. By some fluke of nature our brains became supercharged, which has allowed us to systematically outsmart just about everything -- including nature. The result is that, as animals, we're overachievers, able to fend for ourselves so well that the days of chasing gazelle are long gone. To go hunting we merely have to walk 30 feet to a car then drive to a supermarket. In some cases we don't even have to do that -- a simple click of a computer mouse will result in the delivery of groceries, or fresh hot pizza, or an order of Chicken Lo Mein.
At the same time, our big brains are constantly inventing new and ever more fascinating ways to entertain ourselves without exerting physical effort. So now more than ever, we're more likely to be exercising our fingers on a TV remote or game controller rather than exerting entire body effort to beat a flying ball around four bases, or to race a bunch of other people to a finish line.
So you see we've already put ourselves at a disadvantage. But add to that the fact that since we were babies, our parents used food as a reward and as a pacifier, programming our bloated brains to eat for reasons other than hunger. We now eat because we're happy, sad, bored, frightened, or nervous. That would be a bad idea even if food still consisted of berries and gazelle spleens. But no -- our misguided intellects have designed for us much more tasty morsels: chocolate bars, Oreos, French fries, Whoppers, and Big Macs. Yum! I don't know about you, but I love these things -- or at least my brain does, because the flavors are so refined they directly stimulate the mind's pleasure center to almost sexual intensity.
Face it, we're way too clever for our own good.
That's the bad news. The good news is that only a few simple changes can make a significant difference in this dilemma.
Demote Your Brain
Here's where you begin to unlearn and then relearn. For some of you this initial stage can be a bit tricky and seem weird, but that's because you're about to question some fundamental behaviors. The goal is to take the decision to eat away from your mind, and give it back to your stomach.
The idea is simple enough. When you're hungry, eat. When you're no longer hungry, stop eating.
For many people that seems to be a no brainer. To them it's already natural. You'll notice one thing these people all have in common: they're thin. And in America they're in the minority.
I once was one of those people, back before I got my first car, in those long-ago days where I had to ride a bike or walk everywhere. It was also before video games. I used to ride for miles and hike through the wilderness, and climb trees, and dig big holes in the ground with a shovel. I also was much less into eating, because back then there always seemed to be more important things to do. Sure, I watched TV, but there were only three channels, and I usually only had two favorite shows at a time ... and they were on only once a week.
Things are much different today. I sit at a computer and type all the time. I love good food. I have hot and cold running DVD's at the push of a button -- I figure if I get into an accident and both my legs are broken, I have enough quality TV to watch for three months straight. Add Netflix to that and it could stretch to infinity.
Then there's those bugaboos from childhood: You didn't finish your dinner! You're not a part of the "Clean Plate Club!" There are poor starving children in Africa. And left over from babyhood, when food was used as a pacifier: If I feel unhappy, a box of cookies will make things better. If bored, eat a tube of Pringles. Nervousness brings on munchies for candy like you wouldn't believe. When things are going good, it's time to celebrate by going out for a huge steak dinner ... with ice cream for desert! Ice cream drowned in 5 pounds of caramel and hot fudge.
My peak weight was over 350 pounds. My doctor used to give me alarmed looks while checking my blood pressure, and began prescribing pills. I started noticing lots of little problems, like my back had become fragile, and my knees would make breaking-celery noises when I went up stairs.
Things didn't begin to get better until I learned there was a difference between being "full" and being "no longer hungry."
Learn To Listen To Your Stomach
Listening to your stomach doesn't mean waiting until it growls and gurgles. It means relaxing your mind and letting yourself feel those signals it's sending you. There are levels of hunger, ranging from slightly-maybe hungry to gnawing-open-pit-of-pain hungry. What you need to do is try an experiment, and practice it a few times during the next week.
Pick a time when you don't have a lot of distractions, and skip a meal. Feel free to drink water (and I mean water, not coffee or soda, or anything with caffeine -- which is an appetite suppressant). You'll find that in the beginning, when you're just starting to feel hungry, it's hard to tell the difference between hunger and thirst. So when you start to notice that feeling, take a drink, and see it that makes the feeling subside. In many cases it will, and you've just learned your first important lesson. Sometimes when you think you're hungry, you're actually thirsty.
Continue the experiment, paying close attention to your feelings of hunger as they grow over time. When water no longer does the trick, then you know you're experiencing real hunger. Memorize this feeling. This is your cue -- your ONLY cue -- to eat.
When you feel you've mastered the art of identifying genuine hunger, the experiment is over. It's time to take the next step.
You've established you're hungry, so go ahead and eat something. Don't worry about carbs or calories, just make sure it's real food and not Hostess Twinkies or an ice cream cone. If you're craving pizza or fried chicken, then indulge yourself. But eat slowly without distractions -- no TV, no talking on the phone -- and pay very close attention to signals from your stomach after each swallow. The moment your hungry feeling goes away, stop eating. You're done.
This is one of the hardest things to get used to, because here is where your mind -- not your stomach -- is going to tell you to keep eating. Your mind will say things like:
- I can't possibly be full. That was only seven bites!
- This food is too good, there's no way I'm stopping now.
- I paid for this huge meal. If I don't eat more than this I'll be wasting money.
- If I don't eat more, he/she will think I don't like his/her cooking.
- Etc.
Here's where you'll come to a startling realization: we really do eat way too much food! Also, here's where we must accept an unpleasant fact: when we do eat too much, we are abusing our bodies.
I'm going to repeat this because it's so important. We as a society eat too much food, and when we do, we are abusing our bodies. We are abusing our bodies just as sure as a smoker is abusing his lungs; as sure as a demented glue sniffer is abusing his poor damaged brain.
Is saving food, or money, or someone's misguided feelings worth shortening your life? Is it worth wrecking your health, causing you to spend more on healthcare and the like? Is it worth the stunted self esteem of being labeled a fatso? The shame, humiliation, and the self-loathing?
Freaking no, man! No! It is not. And so you must ignore your brain when it sends you these signals to keep eating, or to begin eating in the first place, and listen ONLY to your stomach.
Only your stomach!
So continue practicing the art of listening to your stomach, determining when it is really hungry (as opposed to thirsty), and only eating until the feeling of hunger goes away. If you eat until you feel full, then you've eaten too much.
Don't freak out if just a tiny bit of food satisfies your hunger. Remember that the moment you feel hungry again, you can eat again. This is not about starving yourself. You can eat as many times a day that your stomach tells you to eat. You can eat just about anything. But only eat until your stomach tells you it's no longer hungry. If that means seven tiny meals a day, then so be it.
Also, begin to really trust your cravings. Once you get in tune with what your body actually wants, and not what your mind wants, you'll realize that you're craving things because of what's in them, like specific vitamins you may be low in. Once you've been doing this a while, you're going to begin craving certain vegetables, like carrots, or perhaps specific proteins like fish or chicken. You might think to yourself, for example, "Mmm! Jell-O sounds good!" Yes, Jell-O is good for you -- your body may be craving the gelatin it needs to grow your fingernails.
Your body instinctively knows what it needs. It knows when it needs food, and it knows what kind of food. All you have to do is listen to it. Trust it. There's millions of years of programming in your DNA, the result of millions of generations of your ancestors who survived the harshness of live, all leading up to you. You inherited all that wisdom. Trust it.
Help Your Body Outsmart Your Brain
As clever as your human intellect is, it's really a spoiled brat. It's used to being in control of when, what, and how much to eat, and now that you're shifting the job back to your stomach where it belongs, your brain is going to fight it. It will complain, throw tantrums, and try to sabotage you. You must accept this and be ready for it with a arsenal of tricks to help your stomach retain control:
- Prepare smaller portions: As you begin to get a feeling of how much you're likely to eat before your stomach says "enough," only prepare that amount. Maybe even less, and if afterwards you still feel hungry, follow it up with something like apple or orange slices. Make it a habit to keep healthy, readily available snacks that you can use to top off your meal and sate your hunger.
- Order a to-go box up front: At restaurants you know that they're going to serve a portion that's more than enough, and you know that there will be some left over. If you have the to-go box right there and handy, you can put the extra food away the moment you need to. This sabotages the brain's penchant for sitting there and picking at the food just to have something to do while you're talking. Box the leftovers up and put them on a chair or under the table -- out of sight, out of mind.
- Deface the food: Say you're in a situation where there will be no to-go boxes, and you can't just get up and leave. Say, a business meeting in an all-you-can-eat Chinese Buffet. You've served too much, they won't let you take it home, and it is sitting there on the table tempting you to pick at it. Now is the time to deface the food. Put something ugly on top of it. Mix a inappropriate sauce into the plate, or dump an entire shaker of salt on it, or take your napkin and squish it into the food. Make it unappealing. Short circuit your mind's temptation for mindlessly continuing to eat.
- Sip water: Unconscious eating is a nervous habit. You can replace the act of picking at food with sipping a glass of ice water. It will satisfy the nervous habit, and it's good for you. Extra food turns to fat, but extra water does nothing but clean out your system. The only downside is that it may cause repeated trips to the bathroom.
Besides all these tricks you can pull on yourself (and I'm sure you can come up with an endless supply of your own), you can also enlist the help of your friends and family. Explain to them what you're doing and why. Get them in on it. Help them help you. Who knows, they may even join you -- then you can help each other.
This is also important: if you succumb to your brain's urgings and do overeat, don't beat yourself up over it. This is a learning process, not a fad diet. What you're attempting to do here is modify your lifestyle. It's not going to be an overnight cure. You will no doubt stumble from time to time, but when you do, simply shrug it off and keep going. If in a moment of weakness you eat an entire box of Oreos, or a jumbo two pound mushroom Swiss cheeseburger, then make it a learning experience. Pay attention and memorize the feeling of being over-stuffed. Memorize how uncomfortable your stomach feels. Take a mental picture of how awful you feel, and show it to yourself the next time you sit down in front of the same type of meal.
Falling down once or twice doesn't mean you just give up and lay there until you die. You pick yourself up, brush yourself off, and keep going. Life is like that anyway, so why should eating be any different? The point is to enjoy yourself while you're here, and you can enjoy eating, too. Eat when your stomach says you're hungry, eat something you enjoy eating, and stop the moment you're no longer hungry.
Amazing how difficult such a simple thing can be.
What Else?
Surely there must be more to it than this. Right?
Wrong.
You don't have to count calories, you don't have to eat only low carb food. You don't have to completely cut sweets out of your diet. You don't have to measure your serving sizes. You can completely disregard anything you've ever read about dieting. The only thing you have to do at the "South Beach" is take a nice walk in the sand.
No fasting is necessary. Meditation is optional. Eat organic food if you'd like. Have an occasional Twinkie, it's okay.
Listen to your stomach. It tells you two things:
- I am hungry.
- I am no longer hungry.
That's all you need to know. Where eating is concerned, your stomach is the boss. If you feel full, you've eaten too much, or you've eaten too quickly. Slow down, pay closer attention to your stomach's signals, and learn when to detect when the hungry feeling has gone away. When it has, stop eating.
Period.
You will lose weight. How fast it happens depends on how far out of balance you are from your natural weight as determined by your DNA. In most cases you'll lose more weight up front, and it will gradually slow as you approach your natural balance. It will take some time, so don't be in a rush. Maintain patience. Even better, simply put it out of your mind. Don't obsess on weight loss, but instead concentrate on making your new eating habits so ingrained in your psyche that you do it without thinking -- like scratching your nose or breathing.
If you do that, your body will take care of itself, and weight will never again be a problem.
Bonus Objectives
If you live a sedentary lifestyle, commit to walking every day. Walking is the best exercise. It's also the easiest. Don't overdo it, but slowly build up to a healthy mile or so a day if possible. If you do this, it will dramatically increase the benefit of your change of eating habits.
Drink more water and less soda -- including diet soda. Flavor the water if you have to. Use a squeeze of lemon or lime, or a dash of spearmint extract.
Diet soda can actually keep you from losing weight. The reason is that your body isn't smart enough to tell the difference between an artificial sweetener and a real one, and so it still releases insulin to counteract the sugar it thinks you just consumed. Insulin released in your system makes it harder to lose weight. You're much better off drinking water or tea sweetened with just a hint of citrus than you are drinking something with an artificial sweetener in it.
One last but important tip: accept and learn to love yourself as you are. Under no circumstances should you compare yourself with a supermodel or hunk actor on TV. Those people are not normal. Statistically they are genetic freaks. Random chance, as well as some very expensive dental and plastic surgery, have given them uber-attractiveness which has been even more augmented by make up, professionally styled hair, and custom tailored clothing. Repeat after me, right now, out loud:
"IT'S NOT REAL!"
I mean it. I want you to speak these words to yourself. I want you to say them every time you see one of those commercials or billboards.
Those images you see are not real, and they're not realistic. Don't compare yourself to them. Don't compare yourself to anyone. You are you. If you love and respect yourself, you'll treat yourself better, you'll treat others better, and things will naturally become better. You will inspire others. You will enjoy life more.
And that's what it's all about.
Further Reading
- Eating Awareness Training
by Molly Groger
- Intuitive Eating
by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch
- The Rules of "Normal" Eating
by Karen R. Koenig
- Eating Mindfully
by Susan Albers
Coffee and Beer are Good For You!
We've heard for so long about how coffee and beer are bad for us that we've accepted them both as vices.
Now it's coming out that this is not true.
Not only are coffee and beer not bad, they're actually good for us. More and more studies have shown amazing benefits in drinking both beverages, from alleviating asthma to helping prevent cancer, diabetes, gallstones, and even suicide.
Read the full articles about Coffee and Beer on our new spin-off site, GroovyBrew.
8 Glasses Water a Day = Urban Myth?
A Dartmouth professor, in researching the source of the rule that we should all drink at least 8 glasses of water a day, found -- much to his surprise -- absolutely nothing to support it. Indeed, he found that under some circumstances it actually may be bad for you.
It's a bit disconcerting to think that something so widely accepted as a truism has absolutely no basis in reality. Makes you wonder what other things we "know" are actually wrong.
What it boils down to is that, if you're thirsty, drink something. If you're not feeling thirsty, then don't. Funny, that falls right in line with the theory of Eating Awareness ... as in, gee, our body actually know how to take care of itself without the help of our intellect.
Lap-Band: Gastric Banding for Weight Loss
Last night I attended a seminar for gastric banding and I'm impressed. The procedure is simple, reversible, and seems quite safe. I personally would choose this over other types of weight loss surgery, especially gastric bypass.
The process involves inserting an inflatable band around the top portion of your stomach, which they can inflate or deflate quickly using a syringe and saline solution. This constricts your stomach right where a group of nerves exists - the nerves that signal your brain that your stomach is full. Also, it limits your intake of food, forcing you to eat slower, and eat less.
The surgery itself is laparoscopic, which means they only cut tiny holes and do all the work via remote control with cameras, as opposed to slicing you wide open. This is much safer and allows you to recover fast.
Afterwards they put you on a specific diet, which is the part I found the most interesting. It's nearly identical to Eating Awareness Training (EAT) developed by Molly Groger back in the 80's. So, it's not the Lap-Band itself that causes the weight loss -- the Lap-Band forces you to stay on the diet. It leaves you no choice.
That means if you could only keep yourself within the regime of EAT, you wouldn't need the expense of the surgery. I've done EAT, I lost a lot of weight, but I let myself drift off the training and I started gaining weight back. This is not good, because EAT is not really a diet, it's philosophical and psychological life change that if followed will keep you thin and free of weight-related health problems for the rest of your life. It's not even hard! But the problem is, EAT is designed to undo programming that causes us to eat for reasons other than being hungry, and we've had years and years of this programming, and it's hard to undo.
So, in essence, I can see where having a Lap-Band installed to enforce this training is not necessarily a copout. However, I would urge anyone thinking of getting the Lap-Band installed to first track down a copy of this book:
Eating Awareness Training
by Molly Groger
...try going through the training first, try sticking with it, and you'll lose just as much weight as you would with the Lap-Band but without the $16,000 surgery.
You Can Help Fight AIDS While You Sleep
You can do real AIDS research in your own home, day and night, even while you're sleeping. You can even do it at work. Nobody even needs know you're doing it.
I'm not lying.
A conglomeration of companies and universities are working together to fight AIDS using computer models to test drugs, and they need your help. Simply go to FightAIDS@Home, join up (it costs you nothing) and download their client software. The software runs quietly in the background, downloading tasks and doing computations, all using spare cycles of your computer's processor which would normally go to waste. After it's done processing its packet of information, it sends it back to FightAIDS@Home then downloads the next packet.
Many of you may remember doing this for SETI@Home, which is the exact same setup, but with the goal of finding signals from extraterrestrial civilizations.
You need not be constantly connected to the Internet to run this program. It will upload / download its processing packets at your convenience, and run in the background when your computer is idle. If you have a computer that's always on, and always connected to broadband, then it'll really do some work.
And you can literally fight AIDS while you sleep.


